I Am A MEAN Mom & PROUD of it!

Got this from my co-n@wies (hi mys!!!) and I really liked the message here. Now I truly understand why my mom was very "mean" to me when I was growing up. Please read below and you'll understand what the word "mean" really means...

Now that I have a son, I am proud to say that I am a MEAN mom too...someday, Paul will also realize what my true intentions and motives for being one. I LOVE YOU Anak!

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Mean Moms
Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will
tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you
enough to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours
while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm
glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.
Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the
meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids
ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, and toast.
When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches.
And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all
times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She
had to know who our friends were, and what we were
doing with them. She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.
We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve
to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We
had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to
cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash
and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie
awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.
She always insisted on us telling the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time
we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had
eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn
when they drove up. They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16.
Because of our mother we missed out on lots of
things other kids experienced. None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.
Now that we have left home, we are all educated,
honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean
parents just like Mom was.
I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
PASS THIS ON TO ALL THE MEAN MOTHERS YOU KNOW.
(And Their Kids!!!)

Batang-Bata Ka Pa

I have been so strict with my son, everyday we go through a lot of shouting and saying no's...I know this is not good, maybe I am being too hard on Paul. I just want him to be a good and obedient boy. I know, I should try to understand that his just growing up and exploring his world. As of now I really can not explain it to him coz I know he will not understand me.

The other day, I was having a hard time sleeping again, so I took my hubby's mp3 and listened to it. I heard this song and I thought to myself that this song really describes what I really want to say to Paul when he grows up. I heard Sugarfree's version of Batang-Bata Ka Pa by APO Hiking Society. Like what I've experience when I was growing up, I had a lot of questions why my parents, especially my mom, was kinda strict. Now that I have a son and soon another baby, I've come to realize that they just want the best for me.

So to my baby Paul...please forgive mommy for being so strict...someday you will also understand. I LOVE YOU!

BATANG-BATA
By: Apo Hiking Society

Batang-bata ka pa at marami ka pang                         
kailangang malaman at intindihin sa mundo
Yan ang totoo
Nagkakamali ka kung akala mo na ang buhay
ay isang mumunting paraiso lamang

Batang-bata ka lang at akala mo na na alam 
mo na ang lahat na kailangan mong malaman
Buhay ay di ganyan
Tanggapin mo na lang ang katotohanan na ikaw
ay isang musmos lang na wala pang alam
Makinig ka na lang makinig ka na lang

Chorus
Ganyan talaga ang buhay lagi kang nasasabihan
Pagkat ikaw ay bata at wala pang nalalaman
Makinig ka sa 'king payo pagkat musmos ka lamang
At malaman ng maaga ang wasto sa kamalian

Batang-bata ako nalalaman ko 'to
Inamin ko rin na kulang ang aking nalalaman at nauunawaan
Ngunit kahit ganyan ang kinalalagyan alam
ko na may karapatan ang bawat nilalang
Kahit bata pa man kahit bata pa man

Nais ko sanang malaman ang mali sa katotohanan
Sariling pagraranas ang aking pamamagitan
Imulat ang isipan sa mga kulay ng buhay
Maging tunay na malaya sa katangi-tanging bata

Batang-bata ka pa at marami ka pang
kailangang malaman at intindihin sa mundo
Nais ko sanang malaman ang mali sa katotohanan
Batang-bata ka lang at akala mo na na alam mo
na ang lahat na kailangan mong malaman
Sariling pagraranas ang aking pamamagitan
Nagkakamali ka kung akala mo na ang buhay
ay isang mumunting paraiso lamang
la la la ý
la la la ý (fade)

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God bless!

A Selfless and Noble Person

Photo by: Charlie Magno (www.igma.tv)

I can not help it, but I get teary eyes everytime I see and watch the news regarding the accident and death of GMA 7 News Reporter Dan Campilan. Although I do not know him personally, but watching him everyday deliver news seems like I was able to know and like him.

Of all the reporters of GMA 7, what strikes him most to me was the way he carried himself while delivering his news. I can see how he’s so dedicated in his work. I remember when he covered the news regarding the meningococcemia in Baguio. I thought to myself, how brave he was that he’s not afraid of catching the virus but rather continued researching and providing the people news and updates about the said virus. Anyway, honestly speaking, for me his good looking, coz he looked like “Ariel Rivera”, which is my all time crush…J But seriously speaking, I was really shocked when I heard the news of his death last Saturday morning. Tina Panganiban-Perez, the one who delivered the news, was really devastated coz she was having a hard time saying her lines coz you can hear her struggling not to cry.

I was really touched by what his family did to the driver of the bus. They did not press any charges and forgave him instead. They said that if Dan was still alive, he will also do the same thing too. (According to them Dan was “maawain”) At that moment, I recalled how Pope John Paul II also forgave the person who shoot and tried to kill him.

Eventhough Dan is no longer with us; he continues to inspire others by the story of his life. How his family, friends and colleagues described him as a very responsible and unselfish son and brother, and a very dedicated and sincere journalist. As he died at a very young age, he was able to fulfill his mission here on earth. And I believe that, that what’s matters most. He was able to gratify God in his own simple ways. Through this, I am inspired to live my life not just for myself, but for others as well.

"Isipin mo na lang ang ating samahan at ang pag-ibig ko sa iyo." - Bayang Barrios & Mike Villegas

Really Terrible Two's

"Whether you're home full-time or working full-time, teaching your child to listen to you and behave appropriately is an ongoing and time-consuming process. But unlike working parents, full-time parents must deal with temper tantrums, whining, and all the other naughtiness the kids can think of, on a much more frequent basis." - Christina Baglivi Tinglof (The Stay-at-Home Parent Survival Guide)

Every morning when I wake up, I always try to remind myself that I will try not to get angry and shout so much. I am afraid that it might have a negative effect on baby Sam. But as soon as I finished saying this to myself, Paul will start doing things that really, really piss me off...(excuse me for the term) like playing with his milk, throwing his toys all over the room, playing with insects outside, and a whole lot more. And so goodbye to good mood and hello to stressful day (ma-hihigh blood nanaman ako!!!). Our neighbor will have to suffer and hear me shout and call Paul's name the entire day!

I don't know, but for me, kids nowadays are so much different with kids during my time and especially during my mom's and grandparent's time. I remember when I was growing up, whenever I hear my mom shout or see her stare at me with those scary big eyes, I would stop whatever "kalokohan" I was doing. When my mom calls my name, my knees would start to shake and my whole body would get so weak from fear. But I am wondering, why does my son isn't acting that way with me? When I start to call his name and stare at him...there's no effect! He'll even do it again so as to really make me mad, as if he enjoys it!

I also remember when my younger brother, Sean, when he was just two or three years old, he's so behave and quiet. He can play on his own without destroying his toys. He can sit still and be happy and content. But, not with Paul...he can't keep still for even a minute. He's very hyper active, loves to run and jump, throws his toys and destroys his cars, books and even my stuff. Argghh!!!!

I am not sure what's the culprit for this kind of behavior? I think its the milk and the vitamins he's taking, or the foods (especially junk foods) he's eating, the shows he's watching on t.v., or the games he's playing...I really, really do not know!!! Hay!!! Disciplining a child is very hard, and the outcome of it reflects on me...I mean, if Paul grows up to be a "bad boy" it will reflect on what kind of mother am I...or is it just my high expectations not on Paul but on me as a mother? (Ha, I'll have to discuss that on a different topic)

I guess I should be thankful! I am blessed with a very healthy and witty child. I should always look on the bright side, and not stress on the things that a normal child does. I guess, my son is just exploring his world and absorbing all the new things he's learning everyday. And I should cherish all this experiences and memories, because when he becomes a teenager and starts his college, we will have less time together.

All I want is for him to grow up and be a very good person, one who's like his dad...a person with a golden heart...

SLEEP ... PLEASE!!!

"Sleep is needed to regenerate certain parts of the body, especially the brain, so that it may continue to function optimally. After periods of extended wakefulness or reduced sleep neurons may begin to malfunction, visibly affecting a person's behavior." -Sarah Ledoux-

I haven't been posting anything in my blog for the past few days and I blame it on lack of sleep. As what Ms. Sarah Ledoux said, lack of sleep means the brain won't function well, so I am having a hard time composing an entry here...hahaha!!!

As I have mentioned from my previous post,since I am in my third trimester (pregnancy), its difficult for me nowadays to get some quality sleep, not just because I am having a hard time looking for a comfortable position due to my bump, but also I have to visit the loo every two or three hours (in the middle of the night). Last week was the worst one, not just because of the typhoon and the blackout, but because Paul got sick too. He's fever got worse because I can not open the aircon to cool him down, I had to make sure that he gets enough cool air by fanning him until 4am (that's the time our light came back!)...

Its really hard to get a good night sleep when you have kids, you will have to sacrifice a lot in order that the children get their good night sleep...that's our (moms) job! I haven't been a deep sleeper ever since, I am easily awake by sounds & movements. "Ika nga", hindi ako mantika kung matulog. So until now, its hard for me to go back to sleep when I am awakened in the middle of the night.

Now I realized that I should have not taken sleep for granted when I was still single. I have abused my body by not sleeping early due to some "important" stuff like talking on the phone, surfing the internet, working late, watching t.v., listening to the radio, reading a very good book, etc....I've come to realized that these things that were important to me before, is not important to me right now...because what is important to me is SLEEP!!! hahaha!!!

So all you single ladies (and men) out there, you have still so much time to sleep. Do not take it for granted...as I have watched the other day at ANC channel, a doctor (sorry i wasn't able to get her name) said that 3 days without sleep will make you pay for it, she calls it "sleep debt". So if you still have the opportunity, grab it and don't waste your time on things that you think are important, because our health is much more important than other things, because how can we enjoy "these things" if we are not healthy.

I guess my body is preparing me right now for more (future) sleepness nights, because when Sam arrives, I am sure, I will not be able to say the word sleep!!!!